500+ And Counting!

With your support this blog has received over 500+ views in the space of one week! This is an amazing achievement by any standards. I hope to continue to inspire others by speaking freely and sharing my opinion.

There is no need to look down on anyone else, they struggle through life just as you do, they have just chosen another path.

The reason why I say this is because I don't want anyone to be misguided by my blog page. The reason I started this page is because I see so many young people out there who are struggling with their true identity and if I want to make a difference in someone's life about opening up and being themselves, what better way to start than with no one other than myself.

You see in the 70's and 80's and even before then, Gays, Lesbians and Bisexuals existed, but the issues were just never spoken about; it was taboo. So maybe that's why I didn't really feel the pressure's of hiding who I really am. I continued on with my life as is. Maybe in a good way, that situation made it very easy for me to be open and I didn't have to hide.

Now that I'm grown, I'm still not going to hide who I am. Don't be afraid!

You can email your stories to outnproudsxm@gmail.com and we will post it on my page.

Be Out N Proud!

P.S: Be proud of who or what you are.

M. Maduro

Q&A with M. Maduro and Father

As I continue to share my journey and experiences, I decided to ask my father a couple of questions that were on my mind since my last blog post. The results of that conversation are highlighted in the Q&A below:

Q: When did you find out that I am a lesbian? - Minelva
A: when you first came to St. Maarten  to live with me. I was upset with the fact that you only wore pants and I consoled you to buy skirts and dresses, though my counsel went unheeded by you and you told me than and there that "I Only Like Pants". - Father
 
Q: What was your reaction when I told you I only like pants? - Minelva
A: As you know it brought about a very serious conflict of opinion between us.- Father
 
 
Q: Do you care to elaborate on that?- Minelva
A: Yes I will elaborate a little. Because you were determined to wear your pants and I was determined that you must wear your dresses and conform yourself as a young woman in the same fashion as your other sisters.- Father
 
Q: Did you see any changes in me after our conflict of opinion?- Minelva
A: Not the simplest one. you were headstrong in your determination and I in mines. Not realizing that you had a very strong attraction to the same sex.- Father
 
Q: After your realized my attraction to the same sex, what were your reactions?- Minelva
A: I became very furious and even more determined that you had to become the type of child that I wanted you to become, and your duty was to obey and not to disobey and I would make you obey.- Father
 
Q: Did I obey you?- Minelva
A: Yes in your own manner, by just continuing on the road you begun to travel.- Father
 
Q: What is your opinion of me now as a grown woman?- Minelva
A: I have found that you have developed with a very serious approach to things pertaining you. I have noticed very keenly that many who claimed to be lesbians are not in your category of choice and association. On the other hand your frank admission of your feelings has eradicated all possible traces of suspicion as to where your sentiments are. Others pretend to be male lovers and admirers while being consumed by other desires. It is much better if we admit who, what and how we are and adjust our lives accordingly.- Father

Q: Have you ever spoken to another gay or lesbian besides me?- Minelva
A: No, I haven't spoken to any other gay or lesbian in the manner in which I have spoken to you. I assume that they want to be who they are but pretend to be someone else. They shy away from serious contacts with anyone who inquires about their feelings as gays or lesbians, causing one to believe that they are ashamed and regret the fact that they are who they are. - Father
 
 
 James E. Maduro interviewed by M. Maduro

Words from a Friend

I'd like to take a moment to share a comment that I received through email from a friend J. Mel after reading my first blog post.

"Good story, might help others. I am not one to condemn you, one is the way they are. My thing with Christians is if we all know that all sins are sin, there is no greater sin. Why condemn people based on that fact. Our human eyes and views may deceive us, but God is the one to judge not man!!! Christian are not! Job well done my friend."

Comments Issue Resolved - You can now post freely

I've gotten a number of complaints from blog readers that they are not able to post comments. This issue has now been resolved.

If you don't have a Google account please choose the profile "Anonymous" You may then post your comments freely.

I look forward to hearing what you think.


M. Maduro

My Dad’s Reaction To My First Blog Post

It is my true conviction that I do not approve of my daughter’s lifestyle due to biblical teachings. However she’s my daughter and I do not see in no manner whatsoever; that my daughter’s lifestyle should influence my love for her.

Regardless of her lifestyle, it is my duty as her father to love her, give her counsel and support her in any manner possible through life. It is my belief, that one day my daughter will realize that her efforts may bring about a change in a manner of dealing with her friends and acquaintances of the same sex.

Until then, let her live her life as she pleases, for she’s a grown young woman and very capable of making and executing her own decisions.

Mr. James E. Maduro