Over the break, I received a story of young love that I wanted to share with you all. Though out to the world, this fan is still not comfortable posting her name to the site. So I'd like to share her story with you.
When did you first
know or discover that you were gay?
I knew that I was gay when I was between the ages of 12-13
years old. But even though I knew, I never paid attention to those feelings until I
started high school. Now I did take a
liking to boys early on, but pursuing boys at a young age usually ended in
heart break.
How did you come out
to your parents?
My mother first heard of my lifestyle preference from others
while out running errands, by the time she got home, she was pissed and cursed
me out. And I let her say what she needed to say at that time.
I continued to be myself and after a couple of years, my mother became used to my lifestyle. And at the age of 18, my mother came to me and asked if I was gay. Though scared, I stood tall and told her “yes I’m gay”. And I was pleased to hear my mother tell me that “she wants me to be happy and if choosing this lifestyle makes me happy then she is good with that”.
I continued to be myself and after a couple of years, my mother became used to my lifestyle. And at the age of 18, my mother came to me and asked if I was gay. Though scared, I stood tall and told her “yes I’m gay”. And I was pleased to hear my mother tell me that “she wants me to be happy and if choosing this lifestyle makes me happy then she is good with that”.
How have you experienced being out to your family and friends?
Well I’ve been out for some time, and the most of my family
are aware. However some don’t like the fact that I am gay. But they can’t tell
me what to do, because first off they didn’t raise me and secondly they ought
to be happy with the decisions that I make because I am happy.
I am happy that I am gay and nothing will change my mind.
What are your dating experiences and preferences?
I was at the age of 14-15 years old when I started to date a girl, she was the same age as I was, but I now prefer dating older ladies. In my experience dealing with males, teenage love or relationships are never a good idea. Young girls can get lost in the “talks” of guys and don’t pay attention to what’s going on. And young girls should keep their heads on because men usually say one thing and do another. And they will always try and get you to have sex with them. But don’t give it up too easy young ladies even though they may say they love you.
I love to date women that are older than me because young girls are still young and they usually haven’t made up their mind to whether they are gay or not. Now older women know what they like and what they want. They are mature and don’t play childish games. In my experience, relationships with young girls never worked out and usually resulted in constant arguing and even cheating. My relationships with older women tend to go smoothly with very few arguments if any at all.
I love to date women that are older than me because young girls are still young and they usually haven’t made up their mind to whether they are gay or not. Now older women know what they like and what they want. They are mature and don’t play childish games. In my experience, relationships with young girls never worked out and usually resulted in constant arguing and even cheating. My relationships with older women tend to go smoothly with very few arguments if any at all.
Hi dear, this is James. I read your story, but the truth is that you haven't ever dealt with older men in your young life as yet. It is true that in your young days, some of you girls try to be butterflies, going from flower to flower and concentrating only on good looks, cars and a trip to the Cinema or one of the fast food places. A real man finds real pleasure with a good woman in nature and the beauty he sees in her character not her personality. It is always best to know what you are getting into before you buy a pig in the bag. But many buy the pig in the bag and then blames it on the pig and not the seller. Glad to know your feelings and respect same. The choice is yours But please remember there are men, there are paper men and there are mani men. I am convinced and believe that I belong to the category known as SERIOUS MEN. Much respect you you.
ReplyDeleteHi Unknown sister, your story is you and you stand real to who you are that's great.
ReplyDeleteThe world is filled with women and I don't see why some men have a big issue when a sister to sister choice of vibe bothers them...smh
but coming back to your story, you keep being true to your self and feelings and as you express it very much seem you are head on with your feelings.
Bless to you sister unknown.
OMG...all this red tape before you can just comment...smh well live and learn but never hide!